Dating during recovery
When conflict inevitably arises in a relationship, it’s easy to point the finger at prospective partners as being flawed and needing to change.
If you find yourself being a magnet for all the wrong people or feeling “relationship challenged,” the path toward genuine intimacy may start with you.
For those in early recovery from addiction, it’s especially important to ease into romantic relationships.
Standard advice is to hold off on dating for the first year in recovery, largely because relationships take your focus off of your own healing and, with their emotional highs and lows, are a leading cause of relapse.
Tatkin has seen many online dating success stories.
But, like other ways of meeting someone, he says it’s a “roll of the dice.” It’s important to carefully vet a prospective mate and avoid feeling too familiar too quickly.
Ask yourself: Would you feel confident introducing this person to your friends or family?